Before the British came ...

Source: Friend's blog

Seize the opportunity

Just as one has to look for opportunities in various fields, so is the case with donations and social work. It is very easy to give money / things to the next person / organization / effort. But to find a "better" alternative is more difficult.

First, lets look at the opportunity part. This is a case when - you think and find a good way of giving. For example, in our area, there is a planned water cut which started yesterday. Usually, we get enough water in our homes and so there is not much need of storage. As it became clear that water might not be available for the next 2 days, everyone had all containers water-filled in their homes (to the smallest of utensils) yesterday morning. Still, today morning, some homes felt the need to get more water.

I saw a water tanker in our colony in the morning. Many of the people from the colony came with their buckets to get their supplies replenished. I thought that they would be buying water on a per bucket basis or something like that. It turned out that one family had bought the tanker for all and everyone was being encouraged to fill as much as they can / want. I asked, why this generosity? I was told that today is 'Nirjala Ekadashi'. It is believed that donating water today is considered very good. And that family seized the interesting combination of events.

Next, lets look at the cases when we identify things we should give away / donate. Generally, the tendency is that, once such things get identified, they become a sore in one's eye. They might have been with you for years together, without being used. Till they are hidden, it is alright, but not now. So, the result is that the next time the maid comes (if no other worthy candidate comes before that - such as driver, plumber etc.), everything is given to her.

I believe that the distribution of these things among people belonging to the category of helpers is very disproportionate. So, the maid would take away everything (even if it is useless to her), since we see her as the immediate person we can give the stuff to. What about the other helpers?

A couple of months back, as I completed my graduation, all people from my year started emptying their hostel rooms to leave for their homes. People had been living in their rooms for 2 years and in such situations, a lot of things get accumulated. Things that are not worth carrying the weight around start getting distributed. And the obvious choices are the sweepers who come daily to the rooms.

What about the security guards who man the hostels and institute gates? What about the delivery boys of the campus canteen? What about the people who help in the academic departments (for e.g. the guys who take care of the audio visual aids of classrooms - they have to be there whenever there is a class)? and so on. According to me, a more proportionate distribution is required.

Attending marriages

I have reached an age at which, every now and then, you hear of a friend getting married. Most of these are 1-2 years older than me, but this indicates that most of my friends would be married (say) in the next 2 years or so. As such, there would be a lot of weddings and hopefully many invitations.

The mode of communication for invitations (in general) have changed to mostly being online (atleast for the events directly related to people around my age). Though this is a faster mode of communication and cheaper, I believe it takes out the personal touch. You can add hundreds of people to your 'Cc' or 'Bcc' list in one email, write a generic mail inviting them and attach the invitation card. And that is about it.

Previously, for invitational purposes, the invitation card had to be sent to each address. And when phones became more common, the cards had to be followed by phone calls. The trend became that people who you seriously wanted to invite were given a card + 1-2 phone calls. And others had to take the hint if they just received a card and no phone call. If the latter people came then, they were most welcome and would be treated well.

I think the hard copy of the invitation card has been replaced by the soft copy mentioned above. Whenever I get such a mail, I look at the 'To' field. If my email id is there, it means it has been sent to me only. Generally, that is not the case. So, I look at the 'Cc' field. Generally, that field is empty. So, it must be the case that people would have been Bcced. And even if there had been a few names in the Bcc list, it gives the impression that there would be at at least few tens if not a hundred. The mail usually says that consider this as a personal invitation, but I am not sure how many people on the list do think that way. I would say, it would have been better if the people were Cced, so that the recipients at least knew who all have they been associated with.

Unless there is a personal phone call or some kind of personal invitation (even if it is specially talking on some IM and inviting), it does not become an event that you have to go to. I might go, especially if it is within the city I am in. But traveling to some other place especially for it might not happen.

I understand that there could be time pressures as an event like marriage comes near and everything has to be arranged. I am alright with being in the Cc or Bcc list and knowing the kind of invitation I am getting. But expecting it to be considered a personal invitation might be a little too stretched. I have to remember this when there is an event in my family, for the easier way out could then seem to be relying on these Ccs and Bccs.

All the time in the world

A lot of time that can be put to good use gets wasted. This has always been the case, but lately I have experienced more of this.

I am in the middle of an atleast 3 month break between end of studies and joining a company. In these 3 months, there is mostly no agenda at hand. There are some important personal things that have to be done, but those cannot start before the professional job begins. So, I have to constantly search for things to do. I am not saying that there should have been no break at all, but for me personally, 1 month break is more than enough for everything. The preparations for starting at the job can be done in that time and the relaxation as well as all other things.

I tried finding an internship, but nothing came across that seemed suitable. I am sure there would have been opportunities for such an internship that would have been mutually agreeable. I also think that there might be atleast a few people like myself who have 2-3 month gaps due to various reasons. And that they would want to put it to some productive use. But I failed to find a forum where mapping of such opportunities and seekers is done. This leads to a lot of time being whiled away when both work is available and people are willing.

Another instance is the story of one of my friends. He was my batchmate at my undergrad. Now, he is working in a job that is far under-utilizing him. He spends only 7 hours or so in the office, 5 days a week and that includes the 1 hour daily use of office gym, in addition to having lunch, snacks etc. He has been working here for a few years and things have gotten from bad to worse, with the time he spends in office decreasing every time I ask him about it.

Here, I guess, there is a combination of lacking on both sides - the company not trying to find the true potential and give work accordingly, and my friend not actively pursuing newer opportunities / assignments and remaining happy with the lifestyle. In my opinion, again a huge waste of precious time.

Logic vs. Religion

I have liked the English sitcom F.R.I.E.N.D.S for a long time now. I had watched a few episodes of other English sitcoms here and there (on advice of friends), but I never really liked any of them. Then came, HIMYM and the first couple of seasons were really good. But now that has started getting boring. My latest liking is The Big Bang Theory(BBT) which is into its second season currently.

There is this lead character in BBT named Sheldon, who is the ultimate geek. He thinks about all situations logically and is generally devoid of any emotions.

Currently, I am reading Sadhak Sanjivani, a religious text which explains the meaning of the various verses in Gitaji and is written by Swami Ramsukhdasji Maharaj. The clarity and thoroughness of the explanations are fascinating and inspiring.

The two things I have mentioned above seem a world apart. But interestingly, I found that at places they are basically saying the same thing.

In of the episodes, Sheldon asks another character of the sitcom, "Is your body mass somehow tied to your self worth?". This is after he has given a not-so-positive statement about the body mass of the other person which made the latter sad. Sheldon is one fact based person and somehow he feels that things like body mass should not affect the perceived self worth of a person.

Gitaji says that if a wealthy person thinks highly about himself / herself just due to the money, it is the money which is bigger than the person and there should be no such feeling. Similarly, if a beautiful person (based on appearance) thinks highly about himself / herself just because of appearances, it is the visual aspect which is bigger than the person and there should be no such feeling. I see a connect in what Sheldon is trying to imply and what Gitaji says.

Sometimes, it feels that the most logical should be synonymous with the most religious (at least in some areas), though it is always portrayed as opposites (almost in all areas).

Personal Learning Paper

Wrote this as part of a course in the second term during my grad school

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I was just awed by the relevance of the case we did ‘Ashok Rajguru’ to my life. As soon as I read that case, the first thing I did was to express this at my blog (http://myselfspeaking.blogspot.com/2007/10/as-relevant-as-you-can-get.html). While reading, it was hard to distinguish whether I was going through what was written or whether those were my thoughts. The only major difference on a conceptual level which I found was that the protagonist does not want to share and I prefer sharing, given that I find someone to share with.

I always aim at being that person to whom everyone wants to share their sorrows with. The discussion in the class about the case led to sharing of some feelings by one of my dorm mates which I had absolutely no idea of. I realized how far I was from my objective that even someone from my dorm itself does not share with me. From that point onwards, I am trying to develop more of a personal relationship with as many as I can. I have started this by making it a point to say ‘Hi’ to any acquaintance (like section mates) who I meet in campus say, while going to the mess in the evenings.

One of the most important things that I felt about the session on Pygmalion in Management was the concept that it was important to have the best managers handling people when they join. At first, I was not able to swallow this idea. But I soon realized that this is how it should be. I have worked for a year and because my boss/manager was as good as him, I actually liked the work which I did at my company. Now that I think of it, I was skeptical about the work towards the beginning and was actually thinking of applying to other companies. But within a couple of months, with the kind of freedom and responsibility I was entrusted with, I did not pursue delving into seeking out other opportunities.

Though I have not been in many situations where I am the boss, I had worked with an intern for two weeks during my job. I involved him in a project and once the base was established, I started giving him some work. But I have this habit of giving details and so everything which he was supposed to deliver was pinpointed by me. Now I think, he may or may not have disliked that (for this was his first job and the duration was small). But, I realize that I have to be careful of this habit of mine. If I like freedom and responsibility, as I described above, I need to realize that the other person would also value that.

Before the scoring was done for the ‘Personality test’, I had categorized myself as an ‘Adapted Child’ (AC) and the result came out to be the same. It kind of enforced my point of view of myself. It also enforced the point of view of others about me (as I see it). Generally, I am on the defensive side of things and try to see why a particular thing which is happening is right. My study group calls me a ‘pro-establishment’ guy for I keep supporting things which are happening at IIMA, be it related to course work, lifestyle etc. I now feel that this comes more from the fact that I have always been told about why the things which happen are for the good. There are rituals being followed by my family and there is always a reason behind each one of them. These reasons try to emphasize the validity of the rituals and I have learnt to accept it on face value. In future, I need to be more towards the ‘Little Professor’ ego state (which by the way is lowest in my case). I believe that innovation aspect is a little deficient in my personality. I need to question things a lot more than I do it now, be it at study or organization.

Here at IIMA, there are a lot of things I need to do in my study group. The group consists of 5 people and so it becomes important to take everyone along. There have been times when a group member is going through some issue in his personal life. At that time he/she have shown some kind of indifference towards the group work. I tend to become annoyed if someone does not contribute, only to repent later when I get to know what the real issue was.

Will Indian economy emerge buoyant after the Global economic slowdown?

The question in title was answered as part of an application for a scholarship. The answer goes as below:
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The first answer that comes to my mind (and that might come to most people) is that India and its economy would definitely emerge buoyant after the Global economic slowdown. The shifting of power to the East along with expanding markets and fast paced globalization would help in this.

However, in my opinion, it is essential to understand what we mean by 'emerging buoyant'.

If we mean to say that India would be able to get back on track with the huge economic growth that it witnessed in the last decade or so, it probably would.

The reasons (both internal and external) which were responsible for the growth in the first place are here to stay. The external reasons such as the need for companies to find new markets, divide tasks in a way that it could be outsourced to someplace in the world where it could be done in the most efficient manner would be felt once again. These reasons are as existent now as they were before, but the risk averesness drift that is being seen currently has led to these getting subdued. However, as and when it becomes clear that Global economy is egressing out of the slowdown, things should catch-up (from where they were left, though with increased caution). There would be even a larger need to rely on globalization to meet the customer needs in the most efficient manner, for the competition would be from across the planet.

Closer scrutiny of the question leads to an implicit point being raised on which a view is being sought. It refers to whether the Indian economy find itself in a better place after the world comes out of the slowdown. This is a more long term question and would be dependent on certain specific tectonic shifts. Yet at the face of it, on a relative basis (as compared to most other economic powers), Indian economy might not be helped too much by the slowdown.

It would definitely be the case that the country's economy would have learnt its lessons and would have come up with measures to make itself more robust and sustainable (with lesser dependance on other economies). However, at the same time, the other countries would have also have derived essential learnings from the turmoil and would themselves have taken steps in the right direction.

So, when one talks about Indian economy's buoyancy, it would be the case on an absolute basis, but less so on a relative basis.

My vision of India in 2025 and my contribution to it

This was written as part of an application for a scholarship
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By 2025, India would decisively be in the forefront of the race to become a global superpower riding on employing its human capital to varied productive uses.

Human capital is one of the most important resources for any country. India has a relatively young population and it is critical for the country to leverage its human capital to join the ranks of the developed nations.

Education sector in India has traditionally operated in a highly regulated environment resulting in a huge demand-supply mismatch. 142 million children (of the 361 million children who should be in school) still remain out of school. High proportions of dropouts are seen at each grade. Adult literacy rate in India is 61% vs. 76.7% among developing countries and 98.5% among developed countries.

The government has realized the need to focus on education and multiple initiatives are being taken in this direction. At the same time, people’s propensity to pay for education has increased tremendously. Emergence of a strong middle class coupled with the perception of educational spend as investment for the future (rather than a expense) will help revive the education system of the nation.

In the coming years, more efficient educational system would lead to better deployment and use of funds. This would also help in reducing the skill shortage being faced by various industries by enhancing the employability of the workforce.

I believe that in a society, the more intellectual minds should service the educational system. As such, more and more people from institutes like IIMA should starting contributing to academia after they graduate.

My long-term career goal is to set-up a school for K-12 education and give a large part of my time towards its development and functioning. I plan to work for a few years to gather the necessary resources for this school. My aim is to research and gather information about various schools from across the globe. This would allow me to have a blue print of the school in terms of the various structural aspects that I want to incorporate and adapt.

Once I have managed to put in place a necessary framework for the school and the resources are at disposal, I plan to devote most of my time to it. By 2025, I see this school 2-3 years into its operations.

I am not sure how much I would have been able to contribute to the vision that has been detailed above. However, I have a strong belief that though the contribution might be small, it is with many such contributions that the vision for the country would come true.

100 common words ... that get misspelled

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Placement preparation

I am sometimes amazed how some people do so much for others.

Our campus placements are currently in process. One of the coveted fields was 'Consulting' and the interviews of firms from this field involve solving Cases. These Cases are basically different situations as faced by various organizations. They usually are real life case studies and one needs to do a lot of practice before going for the real interviews.

The case preparation generally is done in groups, so that the interview environment can be simulated. In a group of 3-5, one person would be the interviewee, 1-2 people might take the interview and the others would be observers. The interviewee seat is occupied by one person at a time and keeps rotating among group members. Similarly for the interviewers and observers.

I think it takes some amount of pushing to be done to start preparing for cases. I started case preparation because of the sustained efforts of one of my friends and my dorm mate, Mr. SK. He thought that I should start practicing so as to get to know the flow of things, the various case formats etc. He started taking my case interviews one on one. I have not seen anyone taking such good interviews and giving such in-depth feedback and suggestions. These proved to be extremely useful.

The best part is that SK was more interested in career options other than Consulting. So, as such there was not too much to gain from these interview sessions for him. He also had to prepare for his own interviews. But all this did not deter him from spending time with me. He also helped me with other HR/personal questions that get asked in the interview. He gave so many useful inputs at every stage that I started checking everything that I did about the placements through him.

Even on the day, I had asked him to be by the phone so as to take inputs while deciding between various things as the day progressed. It was on his guidance that I went ahead with things on that day and landed up in a good job.

I owe a lot to him and am not sure if and what I have done to deserve this.

Best Friend

I have had my fair share of friends, but somehow there has seldom been someone who I can refer to as my "best friend". I am not sure why is that the case - may be I have unreasonably high expectations from this person.

I am in touch with few of my friends from school, few from junior college, few from the colony in which I spent my childhood, somewhat more friends from my undergrad, few from my place of work etc. Months pass by without us getting in touch. My idea of a best friend is not this. A best friend would be one with whom one would want to talk every week or so, if not daily. One would want to share everything that is happening in life, everything that one is thinking of and so on. One could be oneself and when I said sharing, I meant even if it is silence that one shares, the other person understands and does not mind.

This person stands by you in times when you most need someone. You can ask for inputs, voice your concerns / issues that bother you, allay your apprehensions etc. Any behaviour from your side would be understood.

It is not to say that there is no onus on you. Whatever you expect, you should yourself do that for your 'best friend'.

There have been times (only a small number, may be 1-2) when I thought that I had found my 'best friend'. But somehow I have always managed to lose this person due to fault of my own. The other side goes along for a long time but there should be some response. I don't tell them what I think they should do and then expect them to guess. I don't tell them what I don't like and then expect them to find out. I try to control their lives, probably to a very large extent.

Sometimes, I feel making a 'best friend' is not a good thing for me. For the pain from the loss is huge. And when you have no one else but yourself to blame, it becomes even bigger. Somehow, I also feel that you should be the 'best friend' of your best friend for a lasting 'best friendship'.

Reproducing some awesome content

I had mentioned about a few links that I really liked. I recently realized that these have been removed by the author. However, thankfully I was able to find them on Google Search through their cached function. So that I don't lose this, am reproducing the same here. These were written by one of my seniors.

Discover the joy of free-riding (originally at http://aishrejoy.blogspot.com/2005/04/top-5-things-to-look-forward-to.html)

Free-riders are the most selfless souls on this planet (NOT to be confused with WIMWI bikers' club). They kill their own ambitions and refrain from doing any work, only so that their fellow group members can enhance their learning. They give others the opportunity to work under pressure and handle difficult situations on their own. Once in a while, a novice free-rider might offer to make the cover page. However, a seasoned free-rider understands the perils of such seemingly altruistic actions and ensures that the group is not dependant on him for anything. In fact, it can very well be said that behind every successful man, there's a free-rider. Would Vindi Banga have been the head honcho of HLL if not for the services of the nameless, faceless free-rider in his study group?? No chance!!
Free-riders have perfected the art of disappearing. Their cellphones mysteriously switch off and their room phone goes off the hook just minutes before a group meeting. Legend has it that there was once a meeting called of the world's greatest free-riders. Nobody turned up. They free-rode on that too!!



Buzzwords!! (originally at http://aishrejoy.blogspot.com/2005/02/buzzwords.html)

Do you want to impress or confuse clients or vice versa? Use the all-new Techno vocabulary. It can be called the "Buzzword" writing method. It is simple and highly effective.

There are three columns of words involved, as follows:

0. balanced _______ 0. management ________ 0. contingency
1. total___________ 1. organization ________ 1. hardware
2. integrated_______2. reciprocal___________ 2. projection
3. compatible ______ 3. monitored __________ 3. time-frame
4. synchronized_____ 4. digital_____________ 4. concept
5. optimal_________ 5. modular___________ 5. programming
6. responsive_______6. transitional_________ 6. mobility
7. functional_______ 7. incremental_________ 7. capability
8. parallel_________ 8. third-generation______ 8. flexibility
9. systemized______ 9. policy _____________ 9. options

Just select any three-digit number; then use the corresponding Buzzwords from the above grid, e.g., 257: "integrated modular capability".

Don't worry if it doesn't make sense to you; it won't mean anything to anyone else either, but they'll think you're just smarter than they are so they won't say anything!!

You can propose "systemized reciprocal options" (929) to achieve "optimal transitional flexibility" (568), so that we can think of an "integrated monitored projection" and your boss will probably promote you or your customer will be blown away with your technological superiority!

Response from Air India

It was nice to receive a response to my email letter to Air India. It was a personal response to the query, which is good. May be they really could not do much about these things, as they say. I am not sure if I would choose the airline, the next time I have the option of using it. But you never know how this response influences my choice of flight.

I reached Air India through Consumer Online Resource and Empowerment Centre. I am not sure if this would be effective for everything, but I guess for government companies, this forum is useful.

The response went as follows:

Dear Mr. A,

We have your mail dated Sep 03, 08 addressed to the Manager, Dept of Complaint Redressal Cell, CORE Centre.

We sincerely regret the inconvenience faced by you due to the dysfunctional In- flight Entertainment system on our flight from Mumbai to New York.

As you maybe aware, our new state- of- the- art aircraft are fitted with the latest on board facilities that are fully computerised. Electronic failures, you will appreciate are unpredictable and can affect the best of devices. In this case, due to passengers giving multiple commands the system hangs up which results in the impairment of the functioning of the Entertainment system / overhead lights or seat recline functions. Unfortunately, despite the rebooting by the crew if it still remains non operational, these defects can only be corrected by our Engineering department when the aircraft returns to the base station Mumbai or New York. Nonetheless, the same was rectified by our personnel at New York.

We thank you for your understanding and trust you will not deny us the pleasure of being of service to you in the near future.

With kind regards

Yours sincerely,
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Dowry

As I reach my 25th birthday, I kind of feel that I am crossing an important threshold. There would be expectations from me that I would have to meet. Not that this wasn’t the case before, but it would be more so now.

The time has also come when your friends start getting married. I have attended a couple of these weddings and had to miss some others due to other commitments. Though I am a little disappointed at having to miss these, I know there are many more to come.

One important question about weddings that gets discussed is the amount of dowry that is involved. There has been news that the demand for MBAs like me has gone down and that the dowry amounts have decreased. The question of dowry is becoming a little irrelevant as the culture of love marriages is increasing. As I understand, there is no concept of demanding a dowry in love marriages though I am not too sure, but that is what I have heard.

I thought that I should write a post about my view since that ways I would be clearer about my thought. I am not saying this just because it is the ‘right’ thing to say. In fact, it might not be the thing which everyone says i.e. “Taking and giving dowry is wrong / a crime”. I am of the view that demanding dowry is a big sin, but taking dowry is not. To my mind there is a subtle difference.

Demanding is when you negotiate with the girl’s family about the amount they would spend in the marriage and what you would get. Taking is to take whatever is given to the girl by her parents. Obviously, if you demand and then take, the taking does not justifying the demanding.

The idea is that one should not demand and neither expect anything as dowry. Even if the parents want to give a large dowry, one should try and convince them to give nothing or as low an amount as possible. One should show that there is nothing that you require and there is ample in your family to take care of all the needs of your to-be-wife. Employ any method to try and lower the dowry.

But still the parents of the girl have a right to give what they want to, to their daughter. Just as parents work hard for their sons, they do so for their daughters. Their love for their daughters might entail the want to give her everything that would make her life comfortable.

When one gives a gift to a friend, does it happen only when the friend cannot afford something? Gifts are a way of showing that you care. It is something you want to do, even though you can get away without doing it. Why can’t a similar case exist in the case of dowry? Giving even though one need not for there are no demands or expectations.

I understand that this is not so black and white. There may be demands or expectations in the mind and the justification given could be that we are just taking what is being offered. The social pressure would automatically lead to an expectation and the case would be that the boy's side does not even have to demand (the girl's side has to fulfill the unsaid expectation). In that case, you are deceiving yourself. And this might be the reason that a blanket ban on giving and taking of dowry is kind of justified.

Abortion and dowry are very connected. Female feticide in India happens mainly because of the huge expenses that are related with the marriage of the daughter. I firmly believe that any sin that is associated with these abortions would have to be shared by the people in the society that demand dowry.

To say or not to say

I have written before about the reasons for writing blogs. One always has to remember that it could be read by anyone. I have found instances when people write something and delete that post. It might be the case, which the person wanted to write a better post. But sometimes this is because one somehow gets the feeling that it would not be good if the post remains there.

My reading list on the web can be seen in the left sidebar. I use Google Reader to get the posts from these sites as soon as the sites are updated. It happens that sometimes I read the post within the Reader itself and sometimes use the link to go the site to read it where it is written.

Recently, I got a post from one of the blogs that I read in my Reader. It was clear that the writer was in a sorry state of mind and wanted to share his feelings. Though I am not sure if he did find some other outlet for his emotions, he definitely chose to put them on his blog. I thought that the minimum I can do is to leave a comment on the post and so thought of following the link.

My browser showed me a page that said that the post did not exist. I thought that it might be a mistake. I again clicked the link in my Reader and again got to the same page. It became clear that the author chose to remove the post. I am aware that sometimes people write things imagining stuff and it might not portray reality. But the fact that the post was removed confirmed that it was for real.

The dilemma I faced was whether – to send the author an email mentioning the post and writing what I planned to leave as a comment – or just not do anything for clearly the author did not want anyone to read his stuff. I chose the latter.

Hope things become better at the author’s end.