Concern for someone

People are different. Some take too much tension about everything. Some are not perturbed by the biggest of things. Both have their own reasons for behaving the way they do. Some people remain concerned about humanity at large. They get bothered for people they do not know that well once they get to hear about their predicament.

Here, I want to talk about an individual (say, A) getting concerned for some particular person (say, B) and willing to do anything for B. This may or may not come naturally, but the result is the same. I want to talk about the concern of A which is selfless; where A does not want anything from B, or wants almost nothing as compared to what A has done for B; where one starts wondering how such a concern from A can exist etc.

The triggers for writing this post came from multiple sources, but let’s not get into that.

I just came to know that someone is giving his kidney to his wife having issues with her kidney. I just started wondering how many people exist who would be willing to do so; may be many; but that does not make less the act this person is doing. It is very courageous on his part. I am sure his wife would have done the same for him, had she been in his place. It is only because of the mutual concern that they share that they would do this. Of course, this may seem to come automatically as they are married etc. If that’s the case, it is the institution of marriage that deserves a salute.

This concern may exist at so many places, in so many relationships. I have seen the kind of concern I want to talk about so many times in my institute. I want to share two examples here:

We have this mess and in the evenings we go there to have some light snacks and some tea or something. One evening when my friends and I were having this supper, unfortunately, a glass of tea slipped from a girl’s hand. His boy friend who was sitting closeby just didn’t knew what to do. He pulled out his handkerchief and tried to give it to her so that she could use it to wipe the hot tea that fell on her. His inability to help her more than this was quite apparent on his face. His concern for her situation looked so natural. He seemed to curse himself for allowing this to happen (though there was no fault of his). Their other friends were also obviously worried but there was a marked difference (which is completely fair).

The second incident is about my friend who is concerned about his own academic performance but more worried about the performance of one of his good friends. He studies hard so that he can help his friend with studies and I believe that he would not be studying so hard if it was not for that person. He tries to discuss subject contents with many people so that he can understand things better and explain it to his friend. He gets concerned if his friend is unintentionally missing an opportunity to study and understand things in a better fashion. He starts trying to reach his friend so that he can inform. I only have seen his concerns related to his friends’ studies and so have mentioned only about them. I am sure the concern spans more fields apart from this.

My only concern is whether this friend of his sees and recognizes and acknowledges this concern. I don’t know if my friend wants his concern to be acknowledged or not, but I definitely do.